Why Emotions Don’t Hold Up In An Argument

Emotions are a part of everyday life, so of course they show up in our arguments. But should they?

I’d argue no.

If someone makes a point that you don’t like, or that makes you angry, that doesn’t negate the point.

If someone makes an argument that appeals to your emotions, whether fear, pity, or anger, that doesn’t make their argument valid.

This is something people need to watch out for.

“This thing doesn’t make me feel good, therefore, I don’t like it and I’m going to disagree with it.”

“I like this person, he makes me laugh. I’m going to buy that thing he’s promoting.”

“How dare she think that? That makes me so angry, I hate her and her opinions.”

An argument that appeals to the emotions rather than actual reasoning or facts is likely lacking in rational. You should watch out for those arguments.

If an argument makes you have immediate anger towards them, instead of dismissing it, you should probably listen to what they’re actually saying.

Emotions are useful in social situations, but when it comes to arguments, they have no place.

You can avoid using emotions in your arguments by replacing them with actual reasoning.

Instead of saying “It makes me angry when people don’t use their blinker, I want them off the road.” Try “It’s dangerous when people don’t use their blinkers. I don’t know which way they want to go, and they could potentially cause a crash if people don’t slow down for them. Therefore, they should either use their blinkers or have their liceses revoked”

See how that’s a more solid argument? I’m not saying it’s the right conclusion, or even a perfect argument, but it is more tangible and reasonable. Now someone can understand your point, and even respond to it rationally.

Next time you hear an argument that makes you feel an emotion, whether one they want you to feel or not, take a step back and think about whether or not someone is presenting an actual argument, or just appealing to your feelings to push their agenda.